75 stuffs to learn...
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.if he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationshipthat's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was nottreating you as you deserve then heck no youcan't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat afriend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship,but don't let faith make you stupid. God doesthings decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about therelationship--take that as a BIG sign that he isunstable. Do you really want to be with a man likethat?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will getbetter." You'll be mad at yourself a year later forstaying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their businessand aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by abunch of different women. He didn't marry themwhen he got them pregnant, why would he treatyou any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. Ifsomething bothers you, speak up.
23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Removeyourself from the situation to let him figure thingsout (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he willtreat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in hisfamily (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there'semotional and mental abuse. If he causes any ofthem...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him pla! ce rules on you that he is notwilling to follow himself -- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is moreimportant than you are...even if he has moreeducation or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is aman, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but beaware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is.Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look toyourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn'tmean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't meanthat you are meant to be w! ith him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number oneperson in the life of the #1person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying tomake someone unavailable-available, someoneungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a twoway street.
49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal betweenrelationships...there is nothing cute aboutbaggage...deal with your issues before pursuing anew relationship.
52. You should never look for someone toCOMPLETE you...a relationship consists of twoWHOLE individuals...look for someonecomplementary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe theactions. Respond to the actions.
57. A ! real healthy relationship requires twopeople. One person can end it - but it takes two tomake it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...whena man loves you there is nothing in this world(within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a manalways know where you are,and you're always readily available to him hetakes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with hisboys, don't pressure him to spend time with you,You cant force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67.! Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
73. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educationalattainment, values, beliefs, personal and careergoals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.
*** I would like to thank ate pam for this entry.